Thursday, December 28, 2017

six marriage resolutions you and your spouse can start this year

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"The longest sentence you can form with two words is 'I do'." - H.L. Mencken

My New Years Resolutions for the last few years have gone something like this...

Accomplish in 2017 what I promised I would in 2016 that I should have done in 2015 that was long overdue in 2014.

Sound familiar?

This year, instead of making resolutions for myself that, when February rolls around, will be long forgotten, Kyle and I have decided to make marriage resolutions for 2018. Since getting married almost four years ago, we quickly learned that marriage is not a destination, rather it's a constant journey that involves a lot of bumps, detours, and adventures. And many times the car breaks down and we need to fix or care for something. But the great thing is we need not just ride along on the journey but enjoy it to the fullest, too.

You could think of these resolutions as gas in your love tank. Gas is not only necessary for the car to run, but it's the starting point for all of the adventures that lie ahead.

Here are six New Years Resolution ideas that you can use to fill your love tank throughout 2018:

Read the Word together. Whether it's a verse, paragraph, or chapter a day, you can never regret your time that was spent learning the words of the Bible, especially together.

→ Date each other. Before we were blessed with Lilli, this is something Kyle and I never struggled with, and it showed. But having kids makes date night a lot harder to obtain. In 2017, Kyle and I went on three dates. Three! One of our resolutions this year is to go one at least one date night a month, no matter if it's for an hour or overnight. You need that time with your spouse because one day, the kids will be moved out of the house and you don't want to have to start from scratch that far down the road. At least, I don't. 

→ Pray together. I don't know about you, but whenever I finish praying, I almost always feel a deep sense of peace that I've just had a heartfelt conversation with my Father. How great would it be to feel that peaceful feeling with your spouse after you pray together? 

→ Find a common hobby and do it, often. Kyle and I really like watching movies together. I know that kind of sounds lame, but usually when we have a night free, whether on a date or just at home, we end up watching a movie because it's something we enjoy doing together. It's something we've grown to look forward to and helps us enjoy our time together, even if we've had a rough day together as a couple or as a family.

→ Love each other better. A friend of ours recently gifted us the book set 100 Ways to Love Your Husband and 100 Ways to Love Your Wife and I think it's one of the best books a married couple can own. I've talked about how much The 5 Love Languages has changed our marriage and I believe these books can do the same by giving you 100 ways that you can love your spouse right now.

→ Don't take each other for granted. I personally think that this can be such a struggle, especially in the middle of everyday life. We get busy doing the fourth load of laundry, changing another dirty diaper, and wait, is it time for dinner already? We lose track of the things our spouses do throughout the day for us, like taking out the garbage or rubbing our feet at the end of the day. Cherish those things and then tell your spouse that you do. You'd be surprised how far the words thank you go.

Do you have another idea for a resolution for your marriage this upcoming year? I'd love to hear it in the comments below!

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  1. I love this, Brandi! It's so important to take time and still continue to have amazing moments with your spouse. Wishing you a very Happy New Year!! Sierra~Beautifully Candid

  2. I love this so very much! I think we'll be joining you on this journey for sure! So often we forget once we have little feet running around! Cannot wait to see what this new year brings for you two! Love you both, <3

  3. These are all so spot on and things my husband and I have been making sure to do together since day 1 of our marriage.